Did you know that there are over 135,000 under 40-year-old deaths each year in the United States?
The passing of a child does not mean you need remain forever bereaved. This treasury of healing stories, collected by a woman who shares your journey, will show you an alternate path. Savor every word as you learn to celebrate the continued presence of your child’s light in your life. ~Suzanne Giesemann, author of Messages of Hope
The bereaved need both practical suggestions on how to handle the death AND inspirational stories to give them hope that they can survive and then thrive.
Loss, Survive, Thrive is filled with uplifting stories to give comfort and hope by focusing on the resurrection of a quality of life after loss. This book offers insight from probably the only voices that grieving parents can listen to – others who have walked in their shoes. Meant to debunk the myth that a parent can never survive losing a child, Loss, Survive, Thrive is a collection of stories written by parents who experienced their own loss, moved through the heartache and pain, reclaimed their vitality, and are living fulfilling lives.
“Loss, Survive, Thrive is no ordinary grief book. This is a melding of broken hearts who provide insight and direction by allowing us to delve deeply, with them, into their own very personal stories.” ~ Susan Whitmore, Founder of griefHaven
Loss, Survive,Thrive offers a lifeline of hope. Each chapter is an inspirational story written by a parent who experienced the agony of losing a child, reclaimed his/her vitality, and is now living a fulfilling life. Every story is authentic and heart-felt, designed to uplift and inspire. The collective authors reach out through the pages to virtually hold hands with those that are suffering. The contributors have all been there – they know the pain, and they know about survival. And now, through their stories, they offer comfort and support in helping those suffering a loss get through the toughest time of their lives. Bereaved parents share an unspeakable bond, and Loss, Survive, Thrive offers insight from probably the only voices that grieving parents can listen to – others who have walked in their shoes.
When people are grieving, they want to be heard and understood. They’re not looking for advice or suggestions — though we mean well and want to offer support, often the words we say contribute to more pain instead. The best support I can imagine is to give this book to anyone who has experienced the loss of a loved one. They will receive profound sympathetic understanding by reading and relating to the stories in this book of pain and loss and hope and thriving. Within these pages are profound, heartfelt stories that will touch its readers to the depths of their souls and uplift them during these tough transitions.
~ Sylvia Haskvitz, Author of Eat by Choice, Not by Habit and Center for Nonviolent Communication Certified Trainer/Assessor and Communication Consultant
Amazon bestselling author of Stop Eating Your Heart Out, Meryl is a Master Teacher, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (retired), and Creator of SourceTapping®. She’s knows, both personally and professionally, that it’s possible to not just survive, but to thrive after the death of a child. Her only son, Jonathan, ended his life at age 35. Although Meryl endured the hell of excruciating grief, she chose to face it rather than stuff it. And, she also made a conscious decision to recover and to honor Jon’s memory by living as full and rich a life as possible. She has been called a way-shower, or a role model, demonstrating that a joyful life after significant loss is possible. In this book, Meryl collected stories from 26 other bereaved parents, who are not just surviving but thriving, to give others hope that their lives don’t have to end because of the tragedy they experienced.
Meryl Hershey Beck is a shining example of how wisdom and light can be harvested from the darkest tragedy. As a friend and colleague, I’ve seen her battered by waves of anguish after the suicide of her son, yet she retains her natural buoyancy in the ocean of a mother’s undying love. If you’ve ever wondered if it can be possible to reclaim a whole and joyful life after unthinkable loss, Meryl offers proof.
~ Kate Hawke, Director, Trauma Transformation Network
"We all experience pain and loss as a part of life. The key is to turn the pain into a labor pain and have the curse help us to give birth to a blessing as we learn from the authors’ experience and our own. What the contributors share in Loss, Survive, Thrive and with their words can help us all to learn from the survivors and ease our own pain."
"Not long after my son died, I realized I had to make a decision. I could listen to the common wisdom that claimed I would never get over his loss or I could choose to create a meaningful life. I didn't just want to survive, I wanted to thrive, and thanks to the support of countless people, I am thriving today. Loss, Survive, Thrive is an important book that breaks through common ideas about what grief should look like and shares the stories of families who are creating meaning after experiencing the death of their child. We need to raise these voices and this book does exactly that."
"As an expert with more than 30 years in the field of death, dying, and bereavement, I'm delighted that this book exists. With so much grief and loss in the world, this book offers hope to bereaved parents. The contributing authors share their very personal stories of how they pulled themselves out of the abyss of pain, and found the strength to keep on going. This wonderful book will be an invaluable guide to others who have lost a child."
"When someone has to face the tragedy of losing a child, I'm glad this book is available to help them get through it. The stories offer hope and role models. My own grandmother gave up on life after her eldest son was killed in the Second World War and she died not long after. As bereaved parents trudge through the darkest of days, the stories in this book show they are not alone and give them hope that life can go on."
"This is such an important book! When people are faced with a major trauma, like losing a child, they feel they are out alone in the middle of a deep, dark ocean with no land in sight. That’s when they need a life preserver and compass to not drown in the intensity of the emotions of grief. Every story in Loss, Survive, Thrive demonstrates how a bereaved parent made it out, each with a different roadmap. This book will be treasured by not only the grieving parents, but also their support people who don’t know how to help."
"As a trauma therapist, I have seen how a major loss can lead to a lifetime of suffering. I also know that even the most devastating trauma can be healed under the right conditions. However, most people never find the quality of support that's needed, and this is especially true in the case of the death of a child – an immeasurable loss on many dimensions, which strikes at the core of our identity and trust in the goodness of life. Meryl Hershey Beck has a rare ability to unflinchingly share her journey, showing how it is possible to honor a life cut short with an ongoing relationship that is fully open to love. This message could only be delivered by someone speaking from her own experience. I highly recommend Loss, Survive, Thrive to bereaved parents and those who care about them, and for anyone who looks for reassurance that we can emerge from the depths of grief to rebuild a life of strength, compassion, and undiminished joy."
"I have lived through the grief of losing many loved ones. Reading these stories of loss of a child, extreme grief and healing has affected me greatly. Each chapter broke my heart wide open again. Each chapter became a salve of healing again. The grace and courage it takes to dive into unfathomable suffering and not only drift through but fight and kick through to resurfacing into acceptance, hope and joy became another level of healing my own heart wounds. I recommend it to anyone who has a heart."
“Beck compiles stories from 27 parents who share their own journeys through the grief process. Organized into sections by the cause of loss – miscarriage, illness, accident, suicide, drug usage, and murder – the accounts are both raw and deeply personal, reflecting individual lessons learned on the path to healing without shying away from the myriad feelings involved in processing the death of a loved one. Resources for recovery, as well as insights from fathers, often less recognized in the literature, are highlights. VERDICT A helpful and perspective-giving tool for anyone who is wading through tragedy and in need of support and inspiration.”
~ Library Journal
“With beautifully heartbreaking stories, Loss, Survive, Thrive offers a powerful, often unspoken look into the life of parents after the loss of a child. This book will provide comfort, connection, and hope to those who are facing a life without their child.”
~ Diana Stone, owner and editor-in-chief of Still Standing Magazine
“We all experience pain and loss as a part of life. The key is to turn the pain into a labor pain and have the curse help us to give birth to a blessing as we learn from the authors’ experience and our own. What the contributors share in Loss, Survive, Thrive and with their words can help us all to learn from the survivors and ease our own pain.”
~ Bernie Siegel, MD, author of A Book of Miracles and The Art of Healing
“The passing of a child does not mean you need remain forever bereaved. This treasury of healing stories, collected by a woman who shares your journey, will show you an alternate path. Savor every word as you learn to celebrate the continued presence of your child’s light in your life.”
~Suzanne Giesemann, author of Messages of Hope
“Not long after my son died, I realized I had to make a decision. I could listen to the common wisdom that claimed I would never get over his loss or I could choose to create a meaningful life. I didn’t just want to survive, I wanted to thrive, and thanks to the support of countless people, I am thriving today. Loss, Survive, Thrive is an important book that breaks through common ideas about what grief should look like and shares the stories of families who are creating meaning after experiencing the death of their child. We need to raise these voices and this book does exactly that.”
~ Jeannette Maré, Executive Director/Ben’s Mom, Ben’s Bells Project
“There is nothing normal about losing a child. However, in this book, Meryl uses the voices of bereaved parents to help normalize this experience by weaving together beautiful stories of others who have successfully navigated this landscape. This can help all of us who’ve lost a child feel less alone and give us hope that joy and laughter can be experienced again. Thank you for such a beautiful gift!”
~ Paula Stephens, M.A., Founder of Crazy Good Grief, Author of From Grief to Growth: Five Essential Elements of Action to Give Your Grief Purpose and Grow From Your Experience
“When someone has to face the tragedy of losing a child, I am glad Loss, Survive, Thrive is available to help them get through it. The stories offer hope and role models. My own grandmother gave up on life after her eldest son was killed in WWII and she died not long after. As bereaved parents trudge through the darkest of days, the stories in this book show they are not alone and give them hope that life can go on.”
~ David Feinstein, Author of Rituals for Living and Dying
“As an expert with more than 30 years in the field of death, dying, and bereavement, I am delighted that Loss, Survive, Thrive exists. With so much grief and loss in the world, this book offers hope to bereaved parents. The contributing authors share their very personal stories of how they pulled themselves out of the abyss of pain, and found the strength to keep on going. This wonderful book will be an invaluable guide to others who have lost a child.”
~ Virginia A. Simpson, Ph.D., FT (Fellowship in Thanatology), Award-Winning Author: The Space Between: A Memoir of Mother-Daughter Love at the End of Life
“Hope. Such a simple word that holds so much promise. When one loses a child, they also lose hope and without hope, it’s hard to survive. I applaud Meryl for creating a book of inspirational stories of survival by others that have navigated the aftermath of losing a child.”
~ Kelly Farley, Bereaved Father and Author of Grieving Dads to the Brink and Back
“This is such an important book! When people are faced with a major trauma, like losing a child, they feel they are out alone in the middle of a deep, dark ocean with no land in sight. That’s when they need a life preserver and compass to not drown in the intensity of the emotions of grief. Every story in Loss, Survive, Thrive demonstrates how a bereaved parent made it out, each with a different roadmap. This book will be treasured by not only the grieving parents, but also their support people who don’t know how to help.”
~ Robin Trainor, Trauma Specialist
“As a trauma therapist, I have seen how a major loss can lead to a lifetime of suffering. I also know that even the most devastating trauma can be healed under the right conditions. However, most people never find the quality of support that’s needed, and this is especially true in the case of the death of a child – an immeasurable loss on many dimensions, which strikes at the core of our identity and trust in the goodness of life. Meryl Hershey Beck has a rare ability to unflinchingly share her journey, showing how it is possible to honor a life cut short with an ongoing relationship that is fully open to love. This message could only be delivered by someone speaking from her own experience. I highly recommend Loss, Survive, Thrive to bereaved parents and those who care about them, and for anyone who looks for reassurance that we can emerge from the depths of grief to rebuild a life of strength, compassion, and undiminished joy.”
~ Kate Hawke, Director, Trauma Transformation Network
“When people are grieving, they want to be heard and understood. They’re not looking for advice or suggestions — though we mean well and want to offer support, often the words we say contribute to more pain instead. The best support I can imagine is to give this book to anyone who has experienced the loss of a loved one. They will receive profound sympathetic understanding by reading and relating to the stories in this book of pain and loss and hope and thriving. Within these pages are profound, heartfelt stories that will touch its readers to the depths of their souls and uplift them during these tough transitions.”
~ Sylvia Haskvitz, Author of Eat by Choice, Not by Habit and Center for Nonviolent Communication Certified Trainer/Assessor and Communication Consultant
“I have lived through the grief of losing many loved ones. Reading these stories of loss of a child, extreme grief and healing has affected me greatly. Each chapter broke my heart wide open again. Each chapter became a salve of healing again. The grace and courage it takes to dive into unfathomable suffering and not only drift through but fight and kick through to resurfacing into acceptance, hope and joy became another level of healing my own heart wounds. I recommend it to anyone who has a heart.”
~ Ellayn B McBroom, C.Ht., M.A., Miracle Mentor
“It’s deeply sobering to know how much parents suffer when a child dies. The not being able to cope, the dropping down into addiction, the loss of health and even life. Tragedy as a result of tragedy! Loss, Survive, Thrive is such a gift for those who feel shattered and do not know where to turn.”
~ Maureen Morley, Professor of English (retired)
“We honor Meryl Hershey Beck for taking the time and energy to publish Loss, Survive, Thrive, and we are grateful to have a mention therein. To experience a loss and then to slowly but surely begin to survive and even thrive, is a challenge beyond measure. However, please know that there are resources to help. This book will no doubt be an excellent resource, as is Helping Parents Heal. Wishing you the best and Namaste.”
~ Ernie Jackson, Board Member – Helping Parents Heal
“Loss, Survive, Thrive is a much-needed book – to give bereaved parents a sense that life can go on and it’s possible to not just survive, but to thrive. I personally experienced the excruciating pain of losing a child, and my daughter’s dad was unable to recover and drank himself to death. I wish he had had a book like this during those dark days. I used my pain to begin Healing Hugs, which now has over two million followers. Having a book like this would have helped us both immensely.”
~ Tamara Gabriel, LMT, Founder of Healing Hugs
“Being a mother who endured one of the most devastating events in life, I searched and searched for a resource that would give me life after death, something that would bring light into my dark, dark world. Loss, Survive, Thrive brings the grieving parent hope, inspiration, and a sense of belonging. We are not alone, and there’s a place for us in this world.”
~ Rebecca Hendricks, Founder, Fight the Flu Foundation
“For those of us who have lost children, navigating the road back to a ‘normal’ life can be difficult if not impossible. Like those who have gone through other tragedies, the weight of our grief is lessened when we find others with whom we can share our experience. When we share our journey with others, we walk alongside those who really do understand. I enjoy reading about others who have survived the loss of their child and learning how the experience changed their lives.”
~ Wayne Carroll, business consultant and musician
“For those bearing the unfathomable pain that attends the loss of a child, reading Meryl Hershey Beck’s collection of narratives on loss and recovery will feel like witnessing a miracle. In the early stages of grief, it is nearly impossible to imagine ever feeling a spark of joy or fulfillment again, yet these inspirational accounts of triumph over the immense weight of grief will bear witness to the contrary; that it is not only possible but within the grasp of every human heart to embrace life and happiness again, even as one lives with the daily reality that will forever remain a part of life. I know Loss, Survive, Thrive will provide the inspiration so many need to deal with the difficulties of life.”
~ Marla Grant, Helping Parents Heal Tampa Affiliate Leader
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